Yesterday, New Jersey’s highest court made it crystal clear that straights and gays have the same right to publicly recognized intimacy. Does that mean same-sex marriage for all? Not really. The Court left the choice to the legislature of whether same-sex intimacy interests should be codified in marriage or something less in name but equal in rights, thus, following our very own judicial Solomonic practice of splitting the difference. Why judges seem to operate just like legislators. (Surprise! Surprise!)
Why all the fuss over same-sex marriage? There are many potentially intractable reasons for this controversy. Indeed, the same sex marriage debate is a place-holder for much broader and deeper controversies in American culture such as one’s tolerance for change, exclusionary versus inclusionary values, whether courts or legislatures should have the primary responsibility for deciding controversial social and cultural conflicts, and a host of others. For now I want to mention just one often neglected issue implicated by the same-sex marriage controversy: the problem of clashing normative environments in a democracy.
One’s normative environment consists of those fundamental values, attitudes, customs, and habits through which one experiences the world. Our sense of self, morality, and perception of other people, and the world generally is experienced through a normative environment. For good or ill, everyone seeks to retain one’s normative environment and feels threatened when, as is inevitable in a democracy, one’s normative environment clashes with the hostile or perceived to be hostile normative environment of others. Normative environments are all both inclusionary and exclusionary. The question is to what degree and how inclusion and exclusion are balanced or accommodated in one’s normative environment. A problem arises however when the dominant normative environment of the majority is significantly exclusionary. In those circumstances, minority normative environments are in peril. However, because the dominant normative environment is exclusionary it sees itself threatened by opposing normative environments, especially in this case, one embracing same-sex marriage. The same-sex marriage controversy pits the exclusionary normative environment of the opponents of same-sex marriage against the normative environment of a minority.
How should this conflict be resolved in a democracy? The obvious answer is through the legislature. The problem is that in a constitutional democracy embracing judicial supremacy, such as ours, the courts have been assigned the role of guardian of minority rights and interests. Many of the majority-minority conflicts are over the basic features of human flourishing. These issues which define the self and the society occupied by the self, include the most attractive design of democracy; how majority and minority normative environments should interact with one another, how much change in a practice is required for us to say that it has been threatened or eliminated, what sorts of resolutions should be adopted when conflicts arise between those embracing fundamentally opposed normative environments, and the mother of all controversies, should public democratic societies err on the side of including or excluding minority normative environments.
For now, let’s make one point: In a democracy championing judicial supremacy, the legislature and the courts both share the responsibility for deciding this issue. The decision is one link in a chain that one day will lead inevitably to the recognition of gays and lesbians as completely equal citizens with the same rights, privileges, and responsibilities of every other American citizen. How should opponents react to this inevitability? Probably, in the same manner each of us must react to normative environments we disdain. We voice our displeasure, perhaps engage in political action to reverse the trend, and when that fails, we recognize that our democratic institutions–both the legislature and the courts–have spoken. And that should end the matter at least for the immediate future. Any good democratic citizen must recognize that losing in such conflicts is the price democrats must pay for democracy. And once an extraordinary effort to suppress a minority environment has taken its course, closure or provisional closure is necessary and desirable for our culture to reconstitute itself.